I like to think of Little Red Riding Hood and how unassuming she was, wandering around alone in the woods and chit-chatting with a stranger. She told the wolf where she was going and who she was going to visit with no hesitation. Her “innocence” was a display of poor boundaries. I wonder if her mother had cautioned her not to talk to strangers! We need to have certain boundaries in place. No amount of charisma, infatuation, and flattery could get us to bypass the usual amount of time it takes to earn trust and build a relationship.
Narcissists hate boundaries. If your boundaries are labeled as “fear” or “limitations,” criticized or scrutinized, you may be dealing with a narcissist or maybe just a messed up individual. Either way, your boundaries are not up for discussion. Part of setting boundaries is knowing what course of action to take if your boundaries are violated or ignored.

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